How frustrating is it when you’re trying to convince your elderly mother to consider home care support but she flat out refuses? It can be absolutely annoying. You can get angry, even. This can be a point of contention between you and your mother that has led to numerous fights.
March is International Listening Awareness Month and just because your mother may not be listening to what you have to say doesn’t mean she’s in the wrong. It could be you who is not listening – listening skills are not easy to develop; they don’t come naturally.
One of the most important first steps in any discussion is to have the facts on hand. How much do you actually know about home care support services? Do you know what an aide can offer? Do you know the various types of home care services your mother could rely on? Did you know a visiting nurse, physical therapist, occupational therapist, and other professionals could all be encapsulated within the term home care?
Learn as much as you can about these services. Learn about availability and cost. What does the average professional and experienced home care aide do to support their elderly clients? Would they be able to offer that kind of support and assistance to your mother?
The more you understand about home care options, the easier it’s going to be for you to answer questions your mother may have or counter arguments that you know are not truthful.
Find out if there are activities she would enjoy.
Most people have aspirations in life. That doesn’t change just because somebody is in their 70s, 80s, or 90s. Your mother might have certain activities she would love to enjoy but hasn’t been able to even try them because she lacks the physical capability.
With physical support from an experienced aide, she might be able to pursue some of these activities that help to promote a higher quality of life.