You might have already tried compromising with your aging family member about driving only during specific conditions, but what do you do if that isn’t working? You may need to move on to some other possible solutions to the driving dilemma.
Get Your Ducks in a Row.
If you’ve decided that it’s time for your elderly family member to stop driving, you need to make sure you’ve got the goods to back up what you’re saying. Insurance premiums, tickets, accident reports, and medical reports may be what you need to prove facts. Emotions can run high during these conversations, so it’s important that you’re letting your elderly family member know that you’re not doing this out of spite or malice.
Bring in More Voices.
Other family members, friends, and neighbors may have noticed some issues with your elderly family member’s driving, too. If they’re willing to share what they’ve seen with her, you may be able to get her to listen. You might want to ask her doctor to weigh in, too.
Make Other Options Easy to Access.
One of the details that might be scary to your elderly family member is that she may feel trapped without the ability to drive. Making elderly care providers who can do the driving for her readily available can do a lot to take away that fear. No matter what solutions you put in place, make sure they’re going to be fast and simple.
Disable the Vehicle.
If your elderly family member is stubborn, you might find that no matter how simple and fast those other options are they’re not appealing in the slightest. She may try to continue to drive, simply because she wants to. You might need to consider disabling the vehicle in some way to keep her from driving when she shouldn’t.
Rehome the Vehicle.
For some aging adults, even seeing the vehicle is tempting regardless of whether it’s still functional or not. It might eventually become necessary to find another home for your senior’s vehicle. Some caregivers find that this has a calming effect for their aging family member because the car is not there serving as a reminder that she’s no longer able to drive.
It’s completely understandable that your elderly family member isn’t excited about giving up driving. But that doesn’t take away from the fact that her life is changing right now. Do what you can to make the process as easy and as painless as possible.